Since it's the Capricornian season of romance, I thought I'd give you some tips on how to thrive in the mysterious, paradoxical, crazy-making game of love.

Love shouldn't be a lottery, so don't gamble on unlikely odds. Love shouldn't be a power struggle, so try to purge any unconscious yearnings you might have to control people you care for. Love can't be a self-sustaining perpetual motion machine, so I hope you work on it at least as hard as you do at your job. Love isn't an endless vacation in the promised land, but neither is it a wrestling match with a three-legged pit bull from hell, so don't you dare indulge in all-or-nothing fantasies.

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